As I do all the things I do to prepare for the Thanksgiving
holiday, I am trying to pay attention to all that I am feeling these days. I
look forward to listening to the comments by my friends and family around the
Thanksgiving table as we each share what we are grateful for. As a highly
positive person, I know I always have a glass is almost full attitude, and I
want to think that having that ‘can do’ attitude has helped me achieve the things
in my life that are truly important. As a social worker, I am also highly tuned
in to where others are at any given moment; the empath in me feels all that is
around me and I tend to take that in and hold onto it. Partly because I hope
that I can share some of the burden of others, and in part because I hope that
my positive outlook drives me to find sources of healing, places of hope, and
solutions to all that puzzles for problems that affect the people who are in my
life.
I am also aware that as a white person living in America, I
have had a privileged life in so many ways, that my positivity has had a chance
to thrive and grow. This has resulted in being able to quickly work to identify
a positive outlook after the election results. There is a part of me that
always holds onto hope. In general, I
see myself as a social democrat and a fiscal republican. This election, I felt that
putting someone into the White House that could shift the supreme court to
extreme conservatism scared me most of all. I worried that a platform thriving
on hate and fear would spark the voices of radicals who see no value in shared community,
diversity, or equal rights for all. When Trump won, I lowered my head for a
day, and then shifted my balance back to my positive self. Maybe he had a loud
bark, but a gentle bite? Maybe he wanted to wake up America to notice we have
gotten too complacent, but once awakened, he would shift his voice to unite us
all? Maybe, since he spent most of his life as a democrat, he would make as
surprise shift in aligning his cabinet to be inclusive and work towards
acceptance?
It was easy for me to do. I am white. I am second generation
American. I blend in. Yes, I’m Jewish, so technically there is a target on my
back, but I can look pretty much like many in America if I don’t put on my
Jewish star necklace, or you don’t see me walking into my synagogue or catch my
Menorah in the window on Chanukah. I’m also heterosexual. I have spent the last
thirty years in a traditional marriage, raising three daughters, and basically
living the American dream. I went to college and work in a profession I love,
my husband went to college and has, thankfully, been steadily employed
throughout our marriage, two of our children went to college and have entered
the workforce, and the third is finishing graduate school. Pretty normal stuff.
You see, from where I am, I can ignore
the crazy on a day to day basis and continue to live my safe comfortable life.
When I see Trump beginning to build his Cabinet with people
who publicly hate communities of people, I have
to step out of my world and speak up.
Because I want my world to not only
be safe and comfortable for me and my family, but for my friends, clients,
neighbors, and community. It is anything but safe right now, and I am sorry for
that. How can I expect people around me to be positive and grow that feeling
when there’s a storm of hate swirling over America and growing with intensity? Unless
we band together and continue to wake up our friends, and help advocate for a
balanced government that wants to: protect
the rights of ALL its citizens, allow
for equality across genders, sexuality, religion, cultures, and abilities, and spread
a message of respect to all people
within its borders, none of us can or should sit back and feel comfortable.
This is not about ‘my candidate’ losing the election,
because I was highly aware of the flaws of Hillary Clinton too. I’m not a sour
grapes person. But I am an empath, and feel the worry, pain and panic around me
and understand that it is well felt. The one hope we do have is that President-elect
Trump has always been one to be proud to say, “you’re fired!” I can only hope
that when he sees the impact of what is coming, he utters those words to some
of his soon-to-be key players and brings a more uniting team to his table.
So when I sit at my Thanksgiving table, I will focus on gratitude and hopefulness.
But I will also pray for those leading our country to spend the next four years
building up the lives of ALL Americans instead of working to tear select groups
down.